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Blogs > gottaring > Out of the Mouth of a Babe...

Welcome to the Douche Age  

gottaring 52F
10306 posts
4/20/2015 2:47 pm
Welcome to the Douche Age
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ABBC12356 41M
2268 posts
4/13/2016 4:28 pm

 GOOD


JN63JPN 61F  
27439 posts
4/25/2015 3:49 pm

 I find it interesting how they forget that they're the ones who sent the indiscriminate emails in the first place and turn around to say that I'm too fat or too old when I turn them down.

Ah, how frail the male ego is
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lil_whimsical 53F
8781 posts
4/23/2015 7:56 am

 Some days I feel a bit more proactive about the nasty emails - BEFORE I block them and erase the email - I not only hit the report button, but I will COPY what they have emailed to me and PASTE it in the comments on their photos - on every photo. With a preceding statement warning ladies that THAT is what the gentleman wrote to me.

I've actually gotten emails from women thanking me because they were also abused - and information that the guys have been banned from the site.

It turns out, few guys go check on the comments left on their photos.


HUNGFORU20042 55M
Ask me for a photo
182 posts
4/22/2015 5:44 pm

 I really like your post. And you are beautiful. Those other guys are pricks if they can't see the beauty in you.


Vixn_Vella 49F  
14911 posts
4/22/2015 10:56 am

 Send the ones with Mommy issues my way. I'm very maternal.

And even more desperate....


I have no effing clue where I'm going and what I'm saying Vixn_Vella

Its not me....It's you.

And no...we cannot be friends


Linc1912 47M
978 posts
4/21/2015 9:52 am

 Rejection ALSO turns women into flaming assholes as well. How many times have I posted on my blog how women go from interested and complementary, to "FUK U, I DIDNT WANT YOUR DICK ANYWAY.." LOL

Rejection is one thing. But if a man obviously took time to sit and THINK about a message to send to you.. didnt include sexual overtures, and wanted to appeal to your mind....and you didnt have the common courtesy to at least make a short 2 sentence reply? Yeah, makes you look like a D bag.

If there was 20 1 Dollar bills on the ground surrounded by a $50: chances are you would spend 1-2 second on the dollar bills as well.
~Linc was here.~


gottaring replies on 4/21/2015 11:03 am:
I'm not sure where you were going with the dollar bill analogy, but with regard to your initial premise, you are ABSOLUTELY right- the door swings both ways. I have sent emails which were never replied to. I don't think any man has actually rejected me via written word- they usually tend to "disappear", and I'm smart enough to get the hint and leave it alone.

I wish more men DID send personal emails that were written directly to ME. More often than not, they aren't. They're the basic cut and paste crap they send to everyone. But I have decided to keep a better lookout for the original ones and to reply to them regardless of my interest level.

Thanks for stopping by and commenting!

MyNameIsKay 62F  
11887 posts
4/20/2015 9:55 pm

 I have found that men can actually gain points from me by how they reply to me when I turn them down. The long-term FWB that I had remained polite and respectful while we corresponded for 2 months after I turned him down...repeatedly. I eventually decided that there was something there, and we were together for almost 3 years.

I may be occasionally shocked at how someone will call me names when I turn them down, but I don't know them, and they don't know me. So I just ban them and move on like you said.

Something will turn up for you....
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slyfox40104 52M  
109 posts
4/20/2015 4:21 pm

 I am happy to see that you are blogging again on a somewhat regular basis. you always manage to make me smile or crack up a bit with your blogs. I will say that I did miss your weekly football picks this year, and how the packers were going to win every week.

anyway, I am glad you are doing well, making positive changes in your life for you. I have always thought you were a gorgeous woman, the smile alone is one that just lights up a room. just keep doing what you are doing, keep a positive attitude, and everything will be just fine.


gottaring replies on 4/20/2015 4:46 pm:
Aww . Thanks for being such a sweetheart! I might do football picks again this season- we'll see. I'm hoping to stick around for a while this time .

Thanks for stopping by .

pauljames44 79M  
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299 posts
4/20/2015 3:28 pm

 I am one of those men who sends e-mails and friend invitations to women who either never reply, or more peculiarly, ACCEPT my friend invite, and STILL don't reply. So, I'm thrilled that you are now going to take the time and effort to reply, whether interested or not. For some of us, communication is key for establishing ANY type of relationship.

Thanks for being a stand-out star among those less caring.

Paul


gottaring replies on 4/20/2015 3:46 pm:
Well, it does seem that there's a fine line between "polite rejection" and "opening the door to further communication". Part of the reason why I hesitated to reply in the past was that men took it as an invitation to continue chatting, i.e., "we can still be friends". And as terrible as this may sound, I have enough friends. I'm not here to make friends. I don't have time to engage with someone I have no intention of meeting.

Have I made friends here? You bet. Are there folks I communicate with offsite? Absolutely! But that doesn't mean it's going to happen with everyone. It's not an 'elitist' attitude- it's a matter of effective time management.

Nice to see you here, Paul. Thanks for stopping by!!

msb690916 54M
141 posts
4/20/2015 3:13 pm

 It's good to see you're taking charge as the captain of your destiny. Good luck as you expand your search.
Mykl Scot


gottaring replies on 4/20/2015 3:48 pm:
Thank you for your support . I've been trying to view your profile ever since you left a great comment on one of my previous posts. Unfortunately, clicking on it via my blog gets me nowhere (yours is not the only profile I've had this issue with). One of these days I'll have to check it out so that I can lament the distance between us .

fivestar562 66M
284 posts
4/20/2015 3:01 pm

 Please watch for your diet. I think, you will have more fun with young males. Good luck.


gottaring replies on 4/20/2015 3:04 pm:
We'll see!! Thank you for stopping by!

sexkitten4u2014 53F
294 posts
4/20/2015 3:00 pm

 glad to see men are the same no matter the geographical location.


gottaring replies on 4/20/2015 3:04 pm:
Ugh. It's sad, isn't it?

But it only takes ONE diamond in the rough !

Comecloser00 49M
98 posts
4/20/2015 2:51 pm

 I love your candor. And the smile. And your secret desire to have me in your pants. Oops.


gottaring replies on 4/20/2015 2:58 pm:
You have no idea just how WRONG you are. My desire to have you in my pants is not a secret at all .

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